Comments on: Readers’ Question: Can we shift to more authentic communication? http://AuthenticOrganizations.com/harquail/2010/02/11/readers-question-can-we-shift-to-more-authentic-communication/ aligning identity, action and purpose Thu, 09 Feb 2012 01:08:12 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: cv harquail http://AuthenticOrganizations.com/harquail/2010/02/11/readers-question-can-we-shift-to-more-authentic-communication/#comment-2618 cv harquail Fri, 12 Feb 2010 18:40:12 +0000 http://AuthenticOrganizations.com/?p=3227#comment-2618 Hi Catrien- How great to get connected, and to find another writer/blogger concerned about authenticity! I often hear from our au pairs that the kinds of conversations we (Americans) tend to have about issues, where we strive to be clear, candid, transparent, are very culturally biased. These conversations can be uncomfortable, if not undesirable, for people accustomed to cultures that are more circumspect. Sometimes I wonder that authenticity as we Americans know it isn't itself too western, too individually based, to be a universal 'good'. Then, on the other hand, I wonder whether there aren't ways to be indirect, and circumspect, and still authentic? How can you separate out what is 'unauthentic' (bad) vs. circumspect (fine)? What cultural, what's universal? Good thing we're working on this together :-) cv Hi Catrien-
How great to get connected, and to find another writer/blogger concerned about authenticity!
I often hear from our au pairs that the kinds of conversations we (Americans) tend to have about issues, where we strive to be clear, candid, transparent, are very culturally biased. These conversations can be uncomfortable, if not undesirable, for people accustomed to cultures that are more circumspect. Sometimes I wonder that authenticity as we Americans know it isn’t itself too western, too individually based, to be a universal ‘good’.
Then, on the other hand, I wonder whether there aren’t ways to be indirect, and circumspect, and still authentic? How can you separate out what is ‘unauthentic’ (bad) vs. circumspect (fine)? What cultural, what’s universal?
Good thing we’re working on this together :-) cv

]]> By: cv harquail http://AuthenticOrganizations.com/harquail/2010/02/11/readers-question-can-we-shift-to-more-authentic-communication/#comment-2617 cv harquail Fri, 12 Feb 2010 18:32:46 +0000 http://AuthenticOrganizations.com/?p=3227#comment-2617 Sandy, I agree with you... how can we transform our anger, frustration, annoyance, dismissal, etc ad hominem? It can be so hard to take that next step. cv Sandy, I agree with you… how can we transform our anger, frustration, annoyance, dismissal, etc ad hominem? It can be so hard to take that next step.
cv

]]> By: Sandy http://AuthenticOrganizations.com/harquail/2010/02/11/readers-question-can-we-shift-to-more-authentic-communication/#comment-2615 Sandy Fri, 12 Feb 2010 16:33:36 +0000 http://AuthenticOrganizations.com/?p=3227#comment-2615 Such a constructive way to evolve your thinking, and share it with us. The question is not really "how can I express my anger at them?" but "How can I transform my anger into good?" This is right on point for me, since I've been struggling to stay in conversation with some critics of our local school board and state tax system, without becoming wishy-washy on one hand, or harsh and bitter on the other. Such a constructive way to evolve your thinking, and share it with us.

The question is not really “how can I express my anger at them?” but “How can I transform my anger into good?”

This is right on point for me, since I’ve been struggling to stay in conversation with some critics of our local school board and state tax system, without becoming wishy-washy on one hand, or harsh and bitter on the other.

]]> By: Catrien Ross http://AuthenticOrganizations.com/harquail/2010/02/11/readers-question-can-we-shift-to-more-authentic-communication/#comment-2613 Catrien Ross Fri, 12 Feb 2010 06:14:53 +0000 http://AuthenticOrganizations.com/?p=3227#comment-2613 CV, from the foot of Mount Fuji, thank you for your intriguing, erudite, thought-provoking site. I am new here, drawn by your domain name and also this latest post. Living and doing business as a woman in Japan has deepened my perspective on authenticity and inauthentic communication. I believe that inauthentic communication within the organization has been developed to a high art here. It is practiced within both business society and private relationships. Since I now write and speak about authenticity in thought and action, I find myself navigating a landscape of some very trying contours. Thank you for this discussion today. I am delighted to have discovered your website and will visit again. Greetings on this snowy day - Catrien Ross. .-= Catrien Ross´s last blog ..<a href="http://www.energydoorways.com/blog/catrien-ross-on-how-judging-your-day-creates-your-experience-tao-insights-from-mount-fuji/" rel="nofollow">Catrien Ross on How Judging Your Day Creates Your Experience – Tao Insights From Mount Fuji</a> =-. CV, from the foot of Mount Fuji, thank you for your intriguing, erudite, thought-provoking site. I am new here, drawn by your domain name and also this latest post.
Living and doing business as a woman in Japan has deepened my perspective on authenticity and inauthentic communication. I believe that inauthentic communication within the organization has been developed to a high art here. It is practiced within both business society and private relationships. Since I now write and speak about authenticity in thought and action, I find myself navigating a landscape of some very trying contours. Thank you for this discussion today. I am delighted to have discovered your website and will visit again. Greetings on this snowy day – Catrien Ross.
.-= Catrien Ross´s last blog ..Catrien Ross on How Judging Your Day Creates Your Experience – Tao Insights From Mount Fuji =-.

]]> By: Maren http://AuthenticOrganizations.com/harquail/2010/02/11/readers-question-can-we-shift-to-more-authentic-communication/#comment-2611 Maren Thu, 11 Feb 2010 20:55:41 +0000 http://AuthenticOrganizations.com/?p=3227#comment-2611 Nice job with this post, CV, and thank you! Full confession: I was glad I couldn't respond to you immediately, because my gut response was, "Oh yeah! I'm clever with words. I can come up with a great derogatory name for these work whiners." Trust me, working in a newsroom, I have rubbed elbows with some of the finest Label Makers in the world. I read that question and it was like, "Yeah, coach, put me in! BURN!" But as we started brainstorming labels, Jamie and I both realized we were uncomfortable with the whole idea, and yesterday I had a great "aha!" about one of the reasons these labels are so appealing: It allows us a convenient, shorthand way to complain about the complainers without having to take responsibility for doing something about a situation that is counterproductive for the enterprise. Please keep up the great work! Nice job with this post, CV, and thank you!
Full confession: I was glad I couldn’t respond to you immediately, because my gut response was, “Oh yeah! I’m clever with words. I can come up with a great derogatory name for these work whiners.” Trust me, working in a newsroom, I have rubbed elbows with some of the finest Label Makers in the world. I read that question and it was like, “Yeah, coach, put me in! BURN!”
But as we started brainstorming labels, Jamie and I both realized we were uncomfortable with the whole idea, and yesterday I had a great “aha!” about one of the reasons these labels are so appealing: It allows us a convenient, shorthand way to complain about the complainers without having to take responsibility for doing something about a situation that is counterproductive for the enterprise.
Please keep up the great work!

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